Meat suit lesson #65: AN OPEN LETTER

OR... "How I discovered my happiness and why I feel passionate about sharing it with you"

There are a lot of other accounts on social media and the Internet dishing out advice and telling you what to do and what not to do. Telling you, (whom they've never met) how to find your unique happiness.

To each their own, and if someone’s messaging, memes or videos resonate with you at this moment in time and help you feel better then I will be the last to discourage you from using them as stepping stones.

Healing and growth are individual, unique, non-linear paths with many ups and downs, leaps and setbacks. I sometimes reflect back on the approaches I used in past and wonder if they delayed or progressed me in getting to where I am today. Regardless, I made it to this point and for that, I am exceptionally grateful.

The goals and mission of Meat Suit Lessons are not to tell you what to do. It's not to tell you how to get your ex back, or even how to get over him/her/them. It's not to fuel anger against the abuser or narcissist who may or may not still be in your life. It's not to convince you that any God or religion, or belief is inherently more right or more wrong than another. It's not to prompt you to like or comment in exchange for the promise you will, in turn, manifest a million dollars by next Tuesday. Meat Suit Lessons are not limited in the scope of topics addressed, nor in open-mindedness to other approaches.

Meat Suit Lessons are the stories and learnings from one, single meat suit's journey. Across all topics including love and relationships, career, mental health, trauma, happiness, gratitude, loss, health, family, compassion, experiments and any other tidbits that I think may enrich others' lives. I maintain a holistic and broad-opportunity approach to bettering your life and well-being via mind, body and spirit.

My experiences are my own. I did not read them in a textbook and at the moment I am not certified to prescribe medication nor advice. Some have told me I have a "Masters Degree in Life". I think that's cute. I maintain that my experiences are as similar and distinct as anyone else's. We have all felt feelings of pain, fear, sadness, loss, regret, shame, embarrassment, guilt, and rejection. We may experience these emotions through diverse histories, but it doesn't vary much in how it feels to the individual.

I simply chose to share my stories and lessons because I know the feeling of great desperation, pain, suffering and yearning to feel safe and happy in life. I believe I know this feeling better than many of the medical professionals or gurus I have ever worked with. I have been fortunate to have a wide variety of challenges and learnings in this life so far.

There have been some key people in my life that have offered healing in an accessible way. Through the goodness of their hearts or PWYC models, they have recognized my pain and stepped up to help me. Many of them had somebody else do the same for them. I am doing this because I have completely changed my attitude, outlook and quality of life. I have healed from wounds that seemed untreatable. I have changed behaviours that seemed so ingrained in my personality there was no hope of digging them out. I have grown in measures that are truly remarkable.

In many ways, through a combination of self-healing, accountability and the guidance of some very fantastic souls living on this planet, I have completely changed my existence. I share my lessons because I feel a sense of obligation and purpose to do what I can to pay it forward. Right now this feels like the correct vehicle and manner in which to approach that mission.

Without continuing to live in my past narrative I try hard not to completely forget that pain so that I can wake up every day and remember where I was, how far I've come and how I got to where I am today. I feel it is important to not forget where you were and who you were if you want to remain relatable to people in all stages of their life path. I sometimes catch myself in awe thinking back to the mindset I once had and the beliefs I held onto so tightly. I am SO grateful that I can now see things through a new lens. Life feels so much brighter, lighter, happier, thoughtful and filled with joy. I so badly want to show others they can have this too. That happiness is within their reach. I am living proof that you can overcome and bounce back from a lot more than you may give yourself credit for.

While I am humbled by the fact that I still have a LONG way to go to enlightenment, I do not feel lost. I choose to be vulnerable and honest about my past in hopes that someone who is suffering in silence will feel less alone. I am not soliciting hope or coaching from other accounts or meat suits out there unless I ask you directly. Please do not take my gratitude and humility for signs of weakness. (Also, please stop DMing me on how "I can pay you to change my life". Actually please stop DMing anyone that. Being someone who wasted way too much money on things that didn't work, it is almost criminal to take advantage of people who would give up anything for a shred of light in their lives).

If something in my messaging does not sit well with you or does not work for you, please know that while I intend to remain radically candid, I am never coming from a place of malice. I whole-heartedly encourage you to leave what does not feel right to you and I invite you to go within yourself and ask why it might bother you so much. While I think most people out there are sharing advice from a good place, I also think it's important to be careful what you literally and figuratively subscribe to in life. What I will suggest, is to take a close look is the vehicle and manner in which you think you’re healing. Authentic and lasting healing is achieved from a place of love. If feeling angry, or righteous or blaming others makes you feel better temporarily and that’s what you need right now, then, by all means, take it. But I caution you, that in my experience you WILL have to revisit these aspects and shadows through a lense of accountability and love if you truly want to feel better. There is no fear, anger or resentment in true happiness.

You do not need to pay someone else to fix your problems. You cannot take a magic pill to solve your issues. Healing is done from within and quite frankly I maintain that all the answers are already within you, waiting to be discovered. If you find you need help accessing them, there are plenty of free resources out there, just like Meat Suit Lessons who are more than capable of sending you in the right direction.

I adore your feedback, welcome challenging thoughts or ideas and am inspired when you ask me to address certain topics. I hope to continue to give what I can, as I take what I need. I encourage you to do the same and do your best to #rockyourmeatsuit experience!

Much love and namaste,

@meat.suit.lessons ☮️❤️🖖